Depression and Christmas
by Samantha
Weaver
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Christmas is supposed to be a fun, exciting, family orientated time of
the year, right? Yes, sure for those with family and friends to share it
with, but not for everyone and especially not for those unfortunate enough
to be debilitated with the illness which is depression.
For most people, Christmas is filled with the excitement of sharing
quality time with our loved ones. Looking forward to warm welcomes,
cheerful smiles, gorging on endless supplies of turkey and chocolate
treats. Yet there are those who seem to be forgotten at this time of year,
those that dread Christmas with every inch of their being. Filled with
anxiety and self-doubt the emotions felt by a depressive can and do become
distorted, out of control and instead of being joyful and excited, the
exact opposite happens. A depressed individual fears Christmas, wished it
was just ‘all over and done with’ and was a day in their diary that they
could simply delete from their lives as simply as ripping out the page in
the diary that the 25th Dec sits in.
Thoughts consume their brain, fear takes over and the depressives mind
is clouded and distorted into paranoid and anxious thinking. What,, where
and how am I going to spend Christmas? Will I be able to make it through
the day? How can I avoid feeling worse than I already do? How can I stop
feeling so lonely, so unimportant, so worthless and so sad?
No depressed person wants to feel depressed. No depressed person wants
anyone else to feel depressed because of their situation. No depressed
person wants to ‘put on their façade for the day and pretend to be OK’ and
no depressed person wants to mope around alone feeling sorry for
themselves, especially on Christmas day.
Unfortunately, depressed people are also un-motivated to want to make a
contribution towards Christmas. It isn’t their fault, it’s the depression
consuming them taking control of their feelings and making them worse.
Instead, Christmas sends a depressives emotions into deeper turmoil. The
frustration of their situation takes control and drags them deeper into
their thoughts, deeper into their depression. Repeating a never ending
circle of repetitive motion which they can do nothing to help themselves
from.
So instead, they are left alone, their mind pondering a thousand and
one thoughts. Not normal thoughts, but dangerous ones. Wouldn’t this world
be a better place without me? Wouldn’t my friends and family be better off
if I wasn’t here? I wouldn’t have to feel this way next Christmas. No-one
wants me around really; no-one really cares about me or wants to help me.
No-one understands me and no-one knows what I am going through.
The death fantasy envelopes the mind of the depressive and within a few
hours of irrational thought, of upset and distortion in the mind, the
depressed person is close to contemplating suicide. So how can you help?
What can you do for a depressed loved one this Christmas?
1) Don’t let them spend the day alone.
2) Encourage them to
participate with Christmas
3) Tell them that they are not a burden
4) Remind them that they matter
5) Lend an ear if they want to
talk
6) Lend a shoulder if they want to cry
7) Don’t expect
anything from them
8) Feed them a healthy, hearty meal
9) Remind
them that you care
Ultimately, you can not force another person to be with you if they do
not want to be, but the truth of the matter is that regardless of what a
depressed person says or does, they do need to know someone is there, they
do need to know someone cares and they do need to know that someone wants
them around.
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