Love and Health
by
Robert Bruce Baird
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The Love-Health Relationship:
Dr. Gray is the author of many books
including the fabulously successful book Men are From Mars, Women are From
Venus. Another of his books addresses how some people or one person in
every group or organization including a family, will be what he calls a
‘psychic drain’. There are neurons that respond when a person acts a
certain way and research on monkey brains in 1996 showed some monkeys
respond when they see another monkey doing something. This empathic
ability can be lost or damaged in human brains due to trauma such as
lifelong or early life abuse. The loss of what can be called empathy can
also occur with lead poisoning and there are researchers in medicine that
some label ‘environmental’ medical practitioners while they emphasize the
‘mental’ part of the word, who say many if not most ailments are brought
on or exacerbated through pollution and food additives or other things.
Thus highly functional sociopaths are often becoming our leaders while the
decent empaths become victims of society.
Education, Nutrition and A Personal LOVE of mine:
Dave and I went together to T. G. I. Friday's at Keystone at the
Crossing on Indianapolis' north side. I saw a beautiful blond woman across
the bar near the antique gas pump. It seemed that she had a halo around
her head. I saw no other woman and paid no attention to anything except
her. Dave and I went to stand near her and her friend. I was wearing my
southern climate white suit that women in Miami had thought I looked like
a member of the Miami Dolphins in after I had bought it in Coral Gables.
Sherry's sister had a friend named Rick Osney who years later said: "So
what do you do other than make cheap suits look good?" He was a retail
clothing specialist. Sherry was most interested in Dave; she told me for
months after, and the truth is Dave looked like a model and did some
modeling and writing. I was so enchanted and enthusiastic that if it
weren't for the fact that Sherry had just had a partial mastectomy and
needed a worshipful admirer she would have blown me off very early, if not
instantly.
I nattered on about all the success we were on the verge of achieving
and the triplex we owned in Toronto as well as my travels. Sherry saw that
her friend was interested in Dave. Her name was Sue Ann Blackwell. Sherry
wasn't impressed by money or power but I guess the fact that I thought she
was the most beautiful woman I had ever met or close to it, was a deciding
factor in her agreeing to see me again. I had a policy about making love
within three dates over the previous four years or I thought it wasn't
likely to become a real relationship. What stupidity, eh? The limited time
available in every city made this a little more justifiable than it sounds
however. I remember she went to her parents in Bloomington for
Thanksgiving and having her prepare a simple dinner at her place during
one of our early dates. She is a Libran and over six years older than me.
Libran's have the classic hourglass figure that I love and their sign is a
good fit with me. I felt willing to marry her even before we made love. It
was a totally ecstatic time and my infatuation was complete. With 60 hours
towards her doctorate in education and a very loving family that had
enabled a globally conscious person that oozed class, Sherry was my ideal.
There was a lot of conversation and I enjoyed her insights even if she
didn't agree with me about whatever it was we were debating. She was open
enough to hear my stories of psychic things and question the science
behind them and see the possibilities. I told her that I was afraid of
doing anything to cause us not to be friends but I still spoke my mind.
There was no policy of three dates and I was on cloud nine. She had to
make the first sexual moves. Her simple hamburger dinner was a disaster
that we later laughed about for years. Yet, despite the fact that she saw
I was a sweet person with all the right motivations she also feared the
salesman in me. The truth became apparent in a couple of years as Dave
developed a relationship with Sue Ann that he was the real 'operator' and
Sherry still would keep me at arms length other than sex. I wrote poems
and bought roses on may occasions. Before I left Indianapolis for
Philadelphia I had made it clear I wanted to marry her.
I lost 20 pounds in 19 days while taking vitamins and eating my 1000
calorie two peanut butter sandwich diet. I was proud of my body and went
back to see her. I remember meeting her at Subway Sam's and having lunch.
She told me that she couldn't see me anymore if I was going to talk about
marriage. Ours was to be an 'open relationship' and I felt the pangs of
what other women that I had known must have felt. I adjusted and we soon
were sharing talk about our other 'friends'. In a year or so, it seemed we
were hurting each other. I was making more money and the business was
doing well. I guess you could say I was a prime target for a lot of women
who wanted wealth as part of the package. It became increasingly
superficial and I trusted fewer people the richer I got.
Sherry had a couple of problems of a medical nature. Her hypoglycemia
had been miss-diagnosed and she had been given massive cortisone shots
that I believe had contributed to the cancer that resulted in the partial
mastectomy. Women are not treated as men are when it comes to medical
treatment; as well as every other aspect of misogyny in society. My
studies of wholistics and hermetics were becoming quite extensive. I am
going to quote authors from quite different sides of the fence.
David Depew and Bruce Weber of MIT wrote 'Darwinism Evolving' in 1995
and it says on pages 492 & 493:
“They also made it harder for the scientific worldview to be received
with equanimity by other sources of culture. Indeed, since the reducing
impulse undermines fairly huge tracts of experience, people like Wallace,
who feel deeply about protecting phenomena they regard as existentially
important, frequently conclude that they have no alternative except to
embrace spiritualism, and sometimes even to attack the scientific
worldview itself, if that is the only way to protect important spheres of
experience that have been ejected from science's confining Eden.
In response, scientists and philosophers who feel strongly about the
liberating potential of a spare, materialistic worldview began to patrol
the borderlands between the high-grade knowledge scientists have of
natural systems and the low-grade opinions that in the view of science's
most ardent defenders, dominate other spheres of culture and lead back
toward the superstitious and authoritarian world of yester-year.
'Demarcating' science from other, less cognitively worthwhile forms of
understanding was already a major feature of Darwin's world. A line beyond
which the Newtonian paradigm could not apply was drawn at the boundary
between physics and biology. We have seen how hesitant Darwin was to cross
that line and what happened when he did. Twentieth-century people are
sometimes prone to congratulate themselves for being above these quaint
Victorian battles. They may have less reason to do so, however, than they
think, for the fact is that throughout our own century, the same sort of
battles with emotional overtones no less charged, have been waged at the
contested line where biology meets psychology, and more generally where
the natural sciences confront the human sciences. Dualisms between spirit
and matter, and even between the mind and body, may have been pushed to
the margins of respectable intellectual discourse. But methodological
dualisms between what is covered by laws and what is to be
'hermeneutically appropriated' are still very much at the center of our
cultural, or rather 'two cultural', life. Cognitive psychologists and
neurophysiologists are even now busy reducing mind-states to brain-states,
while interpretive or humanistic psychologists are proclaiming how
meaningless the world would be if mind is nothing but brain. Interpretive
anthropologists are filled with horror at what would disappear from the
world if the rich cultural practices that seem to give meaning to our
lives were to be shown to be little more than extremely sophisticated
calculations on the part of self-interested genes. Conflicts of this sort
would have given Darwin stomachaches almost as bad as the ones he endured
over earlier demarcation controversies."
Hermeneuts is a new epithet for alchemists such as myself who OBSERVE
and try to fit ALL the facts together and don't eject anything 'from
science's confining Eden'.
"The rhetorical pattern of these battles is still depressingly similar,
in fact, to Huxley's confrontation with Wilberforce. Hermeneuts ridicule
scientists like Hamilton, Dawkins, and Wilson when they suggest that
nothing was ever known about social cooperation until biologists
discovered kin selection. Reductionists in turn criticize hermeneuts, now
transformed largely into 'culturists', for bringing back ghosts and gods,
just as their nineteenth-century predecessors were taxed with being
'vitalists' every time they said something about the complexity of
development. Humanists identify scientists with an outdated materialistic
reductionism. Scientists insist that hermeneutical intentionality is
little more than disguised religion.
Perhaps, a way out of this fruitless dialectic between the 'two
cultures', can be found if each party could give up at least one of its
cherished preconceptions. It would be a good thing, for example, if heirs
of the Enlightenment {Credited to Bacon, Shakespeare, Jonson and others
with an alchemical background.} would stop thinking that if cultural
phenomena are not reduced to some sort of mechanism, religious
authoritarianism will immediately flood into the breach. They should also
stop assuming that nothing is really known about human beings until the
spirit of reductionism gets to work. Students of the human sciences have,
after all, been learning things alongside scientists ever since modernity
began. Among other things they have learned that humans are individuated
as persons within the bonds of cultures and cultural roles, they are bound
together with others in ways no less meaningful and valuable than the ways
promoted by strongly dualistic religions. By the same token, it would be
helpful if advocates of the interpretive disciplines would. abandon a
tacit assumption sometimes found among them that nature is so constituted
that it can never accommodate the rich and meaningful cultural phenomena
humanists are dedicated to protecting, and that therefore cultural 'ought
never' to be allowed to slip comfortably into naturalism. Humanists seem
to have internalized this belief from their reductionist enemies, whose
commitment to materialism is generally inseparable from their resolve to
show up large parts of culture, especially religion, as illusions. These
opponents, we may safely say, take in each other's laundry."
I wonder if these authors and their reductivist buddies are aware that
all humanists are not without the ability to incorporate hard physical
science to an even higher factual degree than they do. The quantum
physicists like Wigner (Nobel laureate), Schrödinger and Heisenberg think
that humanistic richness is robbed by reductionist unspiritual thinking.
The global reifying thrust of materialism (Dr. Boddy of U of T,
anthropology) is hopefully, in due course, going to return to a global
deifying thrust of spiritualism. The only REALITY is NATURE and it
assuredly includes ALL observable facts not just the 'Toilet Philosophy'.
If I may be allowed to quote someone who tries to keep an 'open mind'
and use WHATEVER WORKS even if it isn't 'modernity'. I choose to quote a
wholistic doctor by the name of Zoltan Rona who has his M.D. and M. Sc. He
edited the 'Encyclopedia of Natural Healing' in 1997 which says on pages
33 and 34:
“It is misleading to call the natural health movement ‘alternative
medicine’ as is often done. Natural Medicine is considered the founder of
contemporary Western medicine. What we now call modern medicine is
actually an aberration, the result of social change at the dawn of
industrialization in the eighteenth century."
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Columnist in The ES Press Magazine. Author of Diverse
Druids. Many books available at World-Mysteries.com include one this is
an excerpt from called Integrating Soul and Science
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